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How to Master Your Mind by Controlling Your Thoughts


Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for creating good in your life, but it can also be the most destructive force in your life if not used correctly. Controlling your thoughts entails influencing how you conduct your life.

According to what I've heard, the average human has roughly 70,000 thoughts per day. That's a lot of thoughts, especially if they're unproductive, self-abusive, or just a waste of energy in general.

You can let your mind wander, but why would you want to? Isn't it time you regained control of your mind and thoughts? Isn't it time you take control?

Choose to be the person who thinks your thoughts actively and purposefully. Become a master of your mind by being able to control your thoughts.

You will change your feelings when you change your thinking, and you will also eliminate the triggers that cause those sensations. Both of these consequences provide you a stronger sense of mental tranquility.


Who is Thinking my Thoughts?

Before you can master your mind, you must first acknowledge that you are now at the whim of certain undesirable "squatters" that have taken up residence in your mind and are in charge of your ideas.

If you want to be their boss, you must first figure out who they are and what motivates them, after which you may take command and evict them. 

Here are four "squatters" in your mind who are causing you to think in harmful and unproductive ways.


1. The Inner Critic

This is your consistent abuser, who is usually made up of: 

-Other people's opinions—often your parents'

-Your own or other people's expectations have influenced your thoughts.

-Putting yourself in the shoes of others, including those in the media

-The lies you told yourself as a result of traumatic events like betrayal and rejection. In times of rejection and betrayal, your interpretation causes self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely unfair.




Pain, low self-esteem, a lack of self-acceptance, and a lack of self-love drive the Inner Critic.


2. The Worrier

This individual exists in the future, in a world of "what ifs."



The Worrier is driven by fear, which is frequently irrational and without foundation. This person is occasionally motivated by a dread of what has happened in the past happening again.


3. The Reactor or Troublemaker 

This is the one that makes you angry, frustrated, and hurt. These triggers are the result of old wounds that haven't healed. Any event that is even remotely connected to a previous wound will send him off.

This person can be triggered by words or feelings, as well as sounds and odors.

The Reactor lacks real motivation and has a hard time controlling his impulses. He's controlled by old programming that doesn't benefit you anymore, if it ever did.


4. The Sleep Depriver 

This can be a combination of a number of squatters, including the inner planner, rehasher, and ruminator, as well as the inner critic and worrier.

The motivation of the Sleep Depriver can be:

-Taking care of the business you ignored during the day Self-doubt, low self-esteem, -uncertainty, and generalized anxiety are all reactions to stillness, which he battles.

-For the inner critic and worrier, follow the steps outlined above.


How to Control Your Thoughts

You are the one who thinks and observes your own thoughts. You have influence over your ideas, but you must pay attention to them in order to figure out "who" is in charge—this will define which strategy you should apply.

Start each day by committing to paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you're thinking negative ideas.

You may regulate your thoughts in two ways:

Technique A – Disrupt them and replace them

Technique B - Get rid of them completely.

The second choice is referred to as "peace of mind."

Interrupting and replacing is a reprogramming approach for your subconscious mind. The replacement thoughts will eventually become the "go-to" thoughts in appropriate situations.

With the Inner Critic and Worrier, use Technique A, while with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver, use Technique B.


The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and it may be utilized constructively or destructively, just like any other instrument.

You have the option of allowing unwanted, undesirable, and harmful tenants to take up residence in your mind, or you can choose desirable tenants such as peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.



Your mind can become your best friend, your most ardent supporter, and someone you can rely on to cheer you on. Your thoughts are under your control. It's entirely up to you!

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